Little Sayings That Can Make All The Difference

7.03.15.1No one said it would be easy. Challenges are for the strong. You have to work for it each day.

No one said it would be easy. There will be days you feel pain. But pain is temporary, pride is forever.

No one said it would be easy. The odds may be against you. Only you can decide whether you have what it takes to succeed.

No one said it would be easy. You can easily give up. But it takes will to continue.

No one said it would be easy. All those hopes and dreams. Don’t give up on those just yet.

No one said it would be easy. There will be battles won and lost.  Fight for what you believe in and know you’ve done everything you could to win.

No one said it would be easy. There are setbacks that you’ll experience. But that’s life, how you respond makes the difference of achieving success.

No one said it would be easy. For every struggle, there’s a silver lining that follows.

No one said it would be easy. The greatest battle in life is the one within yourself. Overcome that and you can accomplish anything.

No one said it would be easy. Where we go in life is determined what we do today. It may seem insignificant, but the reality is that every missed opportunity can have a profound effect on the future.

No one said it would be easy. Life may be unexpected, but unexpected is good, for there is hope after all.

No one said it would be easy. If all wishes came true, then we wouldn’t have anything to wish for.

No one said it would be easy. Someday you will become a champion.

We all have little passages, quotes, and philosophy that enable us to overcome our personal challenges. Enables us to keep our lives moving forward. While they may be personal to us, it could have a profound effect on others.

What’s your favorite Little Saying? Share it today and “keep those feet moving.”

Let Go Or Be Consumed

6.26.15.2Every storyteller has their own way of telling a story. What separates them is their expansive details, pitch, and impact. Often we take for granted what we hear as their stories go over our heads and become quickly forgotten. Other times, they leave a profound impact changing our lives.

Last week an associate of mine shared a story that I’ve already shared with others. The message was clear and direct, “Let it go or be consumed.”

The associate once worked in construction. One day while working on the eleventh floor, from a distance he saw another construction worker wheeling a wheelbarrow around the bend. As described, this worker was considered a large, strong man. One that often moves the heavy loads at construction sites. As the wheelbarrow swung around the bend, the worker began to lose control of it. As the wheelbarrow began to go over the ledge, the worker appeared too determined to hold onto it, thinking he could correct its course at the last moment. Instead of simply letting go, he went over along with the wheelbarrow. He fell eleven stories to his death. Hence the phrase to be told, “Let it go or be consumed.”

In life we tend to hold onto things too long because of emotions, stubbornness, or for personal reasons. We often feel the weight of the world on our shoulders trying to push us down. All this build up, it’s no wonder why we feel tired, unhappy, and frustrated. We simply carry too much.

While the concept of letting go seems the elementary, it does serve value. The little, immaterial things that cause us stress, anxiety, and fatigue really aren’t worth our time and energy. Instead focus on the things that truly matter. Things that make a difference. Everything else is small potatoes.

Know when to let go and “keep those feet moving.”

The Magic of Saying “Yes”

6.19.15It’s amazing how one word can open the floodgates to so many opportunities. Take you places you never dreamed of. In some cases, one word can change your entire life.

The movie “Yes Man” starring Jim Carrey inspired me to say “Yes” for one week to every request asked. All our lives we’ve become used to hearing and saying the word “No” for a variety of reasons. Some valid, some because we simply didn’t want to deal with it. Perhaps the movie was onto something more impactful than we realized. The power of saying “Yes” and the sequence of events that follows is truly astonishing!

I was skeptical about trying this experiment at first. The thought of the types of scenarios I might get myself into was cringing, yet humorous. But in the end, I truly wanted to try something different for a change. I’ll admit, it was hard to say “Yes” to everything, but as I became more self-aware and comfortable, I realized how uplifting is the power of “Yes.” What a surprising difference in mood, energy, and possibilities.

Here are a few memorable “Yes” highlights of the week:

  • A day with my daughter painting pottery, buying stuffed animals at a candy store, pedicures at a spa, and endless games at Dave & Busters. What a great (expensive) day!
  • My daughter put me on the spot, asking me to get a pedicure with her, in front of other people. It was actually nice to be pampered.
  • As a diehard Chicago White Sox fan, I said “Yes” to an offer to buy Cubs tickets. Thankfully there was a rain delay, and they televised the Chicago Blackhawks Stanley Cup game on the Jumbotron.
  • Made a cash donation to support a good cause. It was genuine opportunity to give back.
  • My daughter wanted to purchase 2 pet guinea pigs until she realized the responsibility it comes with. Phew!

It’s easy to forget how lucky we are to have the ability to make decisions in life. As long as we have options available, we have an opportunity to enhance our lives. Saying “Yes” is one of those opportunities.

Say “Yes” and “keep those feet moving.”

Letting Kids Be Themselves

6.13.15As a child, we dream of greatness. We dream we’re superstars. Becoming iconic figures and accomplishing things never seen before.

As we age, sometimes we live our childhood dreams through our children. The same passion, enthusiasm, and hope. But we potentially find ourselves pushing our children too much to live out our dreams. When this happens, those dreams quickly diminish. Alternatively, as hard as it is, we need to remind ourselves to enjoy these moments and not get so caught up in the moment. Let children be children. We can engage in their excitement and hope, but we need to respect certain boundaries.

This past Spring, my daughter played soccer. As a former player myself, I was ecstatic. I could hardly contain myself. We purchased her first cleats, shin guards, soccer ball, and bag. Next she chose her uniform number. I couldn’t wait for her to play.

Naturally I’ve dreamed of coaching her and teaching her all aspects of the game, transforming her into a star. But respecting boundaries, I decided it would be best not to coach and let her simply play the game.

I loved watching her play, but I’ll admit that I had to bite my lip and refrain from being a sideline father. During the game, she seemed more interested in rhythmic dancing and perfecting certain dance routines than chasing down the ball. She’s seven years old, this is what girls do, right? Occasionally she did get a foot on the ball, but she was more excited dancing around in her position. By the time the games ended, I bloodied my lip from biting too hard.

As the final game waned into the closing minutes, it was like watching the end of an era. My daughter may never play again, but who knows, maybe she will get that itch. I learned that certain dreams are not for everyone. Instead it’s the enjoyment we share that matters most.

Cherish these memories and “keep those feet moving.”

Never Give Up

6.05.15Life continues to come at us hard. For every achievement, triumph, and fortunate break, there are disappointments. Setbacks. Not to mention missed opportunities. While these inconsistencies can be discouraging, it’s part of life. The difference is how you rise up.

There is a fight in all of us. No matter how many times we get knocked down, we rise back up. The daily grind pushes us to our limits. The question is whether we can truly withstand the punches.

There is inspiration everywhere we go. There is empowerment every step we take. There is motivation to what we can accomplish.

For every obstacle, the course is one giant maze with many alternatives. For every barrier, there is an opportunity to knock it down. Our strength lies deep within us.

You can succeed in getting what you want. You will succeed in everything you do. You will prevail. How? Believe in yourself. If you believe you have the strength to move mountains and soar to new horizons, limits can’t define you. You define the limits. Perception is everything.

In my career, I may be under appreciated, undervalued despite my strong contributions and work. A recent promotion opportunity I am chasing suddenly has new barriers that will ultimately test my patience. Instead of being discouraged, I am more encouraged to push myself over the top and earn it. To make it that much more rewarding.

I continue to do my best each day. I work harder than the last day to achieve my goals.  I will experienced setbacks along the way, but I am prepared to conquer new obstacles. As long as my feet keep moving I have a fighting chance.

Never give up and “keep those feet moving”

Coping With Anxiety

5.29.15Anxiety surrounds us daily. We can’t see it. We can’t hear it. But we can feel it closing in. We can’t hide. We can’t run. But we know it’s following us everywhere we go.

Like panic attacks, anxiety can significantly impact our daily lives. While symptoms may be similar, there are noticeable differences. If you are fortunate, anxiety won’t turn into a panic attack. And should a panic attack suddenly surface, you can read my previous post, “How to Deal With Anxiety and Panic Attacks,” for suggestions on how to cope with a panic attack.

Anxiety is often brought on by perceptions and moments that have not occurred. We run through numerous scenarios in our head of how the moments will play out. What will be said and how we react. And finally when that moment arises, the diagnostic contains variables we didn’t think about or perhaps discloses an alternative outcome. Yet we placed so much focus into creating unnecessary stress and anxiety.

Anxiety often stops us in our tracks. Provides moments to sort through perceptions and potential outcomes. But in the end, does it get you anywhere? All those scenarios, all that stress, what did it accomplish?

The question becomes how do we live our lives free from stress? It’s been said that most things we worry about never happen. But yet that small percentage continues to weigh us down, sometimes leading to panic attacks.

We can prepare ourselves for the worst. We can anticipate and run scenarios all day long. That’s a lot of energy directed towards stress and anxiety. Alternatively, that same energy can be directed to something we can control. A goal. Our drive to success and live life to the fullest.

These techniques I’ve learned over the years have kept certain anxiety to a minimum.

1) Focus on what you can control. You can’t control the weather, but you can audible.

2) Meditation and Reiki do provide a successful method of release. It restores tranquility that may be blocked.

3) Make decisions based upon facts. Never let emotions or opinions directly influence.

4) Always be two steps ahead. Plan and reassess continuously to keep the playing field even.

5) Accept there will be times when anxiety, stress, panic attacks arise. Recognize it’s your body’s way of recharging and protecting itself.

Obviously there are many more techniques to be shared, however, find the ones that work for you and regain control of your life. We can live in a world where anxiety consumes us. Or we can live in a world that we can overcome these types of challenges to live the life we want.

Free your anxiety and “keep those feet moving.”

An Angel Over My Daughter

5.22.15We are truly never alone in this world. Certain forces of nature are among us. While the notion may seem unthinkable, there is a certain reality to it.

I have always wondered whether Angels exist. Depending on religious beliefs, Angels can descend from Heaven to protect us from harm or enable something good to happen. If this belief is true, why do we experience setbacks, emotional pain, and misfortunes? What constitutes the parameters surrounding their descend? And why can’t we see them?

This past weekend my daughter attempted to learn to ride her bike without training wheels. She understood the concept, but her fear of falling prevented her from successfully riding. She would pedal for a second and then stop. Over and over. After two days, she was still unsuccessful as her fear consumed her thoughts.

The next day marked the six year anniversary of Cory’s passing. I distinctly asked my daughter that morning whether her mother ever appeared before her. Not that I really expected her to, yet I was still curious. Perhaps children can see Angels. My daughter simply responded no. That was it, nothing more to the conversation.

That afternoon, my daughter came home and decided at the last moment to try riding her bike without training wheels. Several attempts later, she was successfully riding!

Imagine, the same day of her mother’s passing is the same day she successfully learned to ride without training wheels.

There can only be one explanation. An Angel, my daughter’s mother, is watching over her. Perhaps on this emotional day, despite us not being able to see her, her presence was felt. She gave us a gift on this very day to help forever soften our landing.

I have always wondered whether Angels exist. Now I don’t have to. They are always watching over us awaiting for the right time to descend. All I can say, from the bottom of my heart, thank you…

Believe in Angels and “keep those feet moving.”