September 26, 2014 – Fear of falling

Fears erode our confidence level. They become mental blocks and very difficult to overcome in certain scenarios. How can we overcome our fears to live better lives for ourselves?

Upon ice skating I’ve come to the conclusion that those that develop a fear of falling become limited as they navigate their way around the rink. Their confidence level dwindles upon each glide as if fear itself is in control. The fear of falling, getting hurt, or humiliation are all aspects associated. However, it’s really your own perception that creates fear. It’s all in your head, a mental block. It’s not that you can’t skate, you just have to let go of your fear of doing so.  And when you do, your confidence soars.

If you go through life in fear, you’ll never capitalize on opportunities. You’ll be hindered on your potential and it’ll have a direct influence on the outcome. You can’t go through life being afraid of something that may or may not happen. The more you focus on your fears and potential mishaps ahead, you run a greater risk of actually not succeeding. We can hide behind fears or we can work to overcome them. Gain new confidence, gain new strength, and move mountains once again. It’s okay to fear unknowns associated, however, don’t let fear define you. You define fear. Never back down and never hide. For every punch you get hit with, fight back. Look your challenger in the eye and regain control. This is about you. This is your life, live how you want to live. But leave the fear behind.

Conquer your fears and “keep those feet moving.”

September 19, 2014 – Fight on

Have you truly done all you can do? All those battles you fight, do you remain standing? What more can you do to change the pending outcome ahead, to make a difference? Go ahead, look yourself in the mirror and answer these questions honesty without any hesitations or doubts.

Often we make excuses to justify our struggles, our avoidance, and why we succumb to pressures surrounding us. We hide behind common phrases such: I can’t, I tried, I give up, it’s too hard, nothing is working, why bother, no matter what I do…

Ask yourself again, have you truly done all you can do? If at any point those common phrases are part of your routine vocabulary, then the answer is that you haven’t done everything you can. You haven’t given it your best effort. Instead, you are merely looking for an easy way out that doesn’t exist. Perhaps it’s easier giving up and walking away from the battle. But remember, giving up equates to heartache and pain. While giving up may be a common trait for many, but that’s not you. You are stronger than that. There are no excuses; you know what you have to do. Earn the respect you deserve. No matter how many times you get knocked down, get back up and try again. And again.

Every day ask yourself whether you’ve truly done all you can do. Keep fighting. As long as you continue to fight, you are doing everything you can. Never stop believing. Never stop fighting. Medical science doesn’t define you, you define medical science. Misfortunes don’t limit you, you rise above. Fate doesn’t control your destiny, you control your destiny. Every day battles come and go as it’s a part of life. Only you can decide how you want to fight.

Fight on and “keep those feet moving.”

September 11, 2014 – Closure

September 11 will forever be a day of remembrance. A day when open wounds resurface and we come together for an opportunity to express our sorrows once more. Relive the horrors of what we’ve seen and/or experienced. Whether directly or indirectly, we’ve all been impacted by the turn of events. We have stories of our own to share. As for open wounds, how can they close?

The world is filled with tragedies after tragedies. None of it makes sense or can be justified. I don’t know which is worse to experience, a sudden or prolonged death. Is there truly a better scenario? If it’s sudden, you experience initial shock and anger follows. If it’s prolonged, you experience the pain and agony of watching the minutes tick and a void settles in afterwards. In the end, there isn’t any scenario that makes it easy. When it’s all said and done, you are left with how to deal with the closure aspect.

Closure enables us to heal. It provides an end to a chapter horribly written. We can spend our lives in mourning, in self-defeat, in agony. Or you can fight your way out and climb again. Our losses are filled with void from a presence perspective; however, it’s their strength that continues to live within us. It provides comfort knowing they are never truly far away.

Finding closure enables you to celebrate the life, not mourn the loss. On a day like this, we find ourselves reflecting back not just looking for answers, but trying to relive certain memories. Sometimes it’s a wonder whether we live out certain memories because we continue to mourn or if we are afraid of losing them entirely. The sooner you begin to accept life for what it is, the easier it is to heal. Instead of seeking the answers to rhetorical questions of life, embrace what you have and all the experiences that go with it.

Find your closure and “keep those feet moving.”

September 5, 2014 – Right or left hand

Everyday are opportunities to make decisions. Some are simple, others may be complex. While we tend to agonize over the more complex decisions, surprisingly these types of decisions are not our biggest challenge.

In reality, the toughest decisions are the ones you don’t make. Indecisiveness as it’s called. Even upon the simplest decisions, we struggle. Why? Is it because we don’t have enough information; is it that we are afraid of making an incorrect choice? Or perhaps it’s the repercussions that follow that present the greater challenge?

I often compare decision making to the strength of our arm dominance. Most of us predominantly are either right or left handed. Everything we do is based upon our dominant hand. What happens when you are forced to use your opposite hand? Not only do you struggle with strength, you struggle with confidence because you are now outside your comfort zone. In decision making, it’s the same thing. Certain decisions you’ll prevail and others you simply struggle to decide.  So the question becomes is how do you strengthen those skills?

The more you use your opposite hand, the stronger you become. The more decisions you make, the more confidence you gain knowing you’ve made the correct choice. Never shy away from those opportunities because you may be surprised of the outcome.

In life, decisions surround us everywhere we go. Whether we are exposed to crises related to medical, financial, career, or anything else, always obtain the facts first. Then decide. Once you decide, never look back. After all, you’ve done the best you could at that precise moment.

As for the repercussions that follow your decision, que sera sera…

Continue making decisions and “keep those feet moving.”

August 29, 2014 – 60 day challenge

What’s it going to take to make a change? What are you going to do differently from your previous attempts? How can you effectively measure your own success?

It’s common knowledge that when crises arise or you are stuck in second gear with certain life aspects, something’s got to give. Whatever it is that you are doing simply isn’t working.  You can spend your time instituting the same change management over and over again without success or you can modify your approach and game plan.

The interesting aspect is that on previous attempts, all the accountability was on yourself. If you succeeded, fantastic. If not, you truthfully shrugged it off and moved on awaiting for the next opportunity to try once again. But what if this time the accountability wasn’t on yourself, but on a community as a whole. How will that change your approach and commitment level?

As I ponder further about unsuccessful attempts of the past and listen to others vent about their frustrations upon making changes in their lives, I’ve come to the conclusion, it’s all about accountability. Sometimes we blame ourselves for our current position or missed opportunities. But we can’t do that anymore. We have an opportunity to make a difference. Make a positive impact on our lives.

By invoking a 60 day challenge, it provides us all an opportunity to make necessary changes to achieve greater success, achieve more personal satisfaction in life, and to challenge ourselves to reach new heights. It’s an opportunity to make a difference within yourself and having the support of this community behind you.

Determine your 60 day challenge and “keep those feet moving.”

August 15, 2014 – Baby steps

It doesn’t matter how it all began. When crisis came into light. All those replays in your mind are meaningless. You can agonize every day for the remainder of your life, but what will that accomplish? The most important aspect is not the beginning, but how you finish strong, how you overcome obstacles presented.

Think about how you want to spend your energy? It is better served in the beginning or the end? Where do focus your strength? Valid questions, yet many struggle with putting the first step forward. They remain fixated on the why aspect instead of creating action to enable that first step.

You got to take baby steps before you can walk, leap, jump, and run. The same thought process can be applied to overcoming crises. If you truly break it down, crises have their own categories connected by roller coasters. There will always be high and low points, yet the key is finding the middle ground for stabilization purposes. Once stabilized, you can begin taking baby steps forward.

In life we are inspired and motivated by success stories so why not create our own success story? A story that is so inspirational that can be used as a springboard to motivate others. Or more importantly, achieve success yourself.

There are certain crises that are inevitable. It was meant to occur, often without pure justification. But that is now in the past, you control the outcome going forward. The question now becomes is how are you going to finish strong?

Take those baby steps and “keep those feet moving.”

August 8, 2014 – Without pain, there is no gain

We set goals in life, standards that we abide by. Our perceptions dictate whether we succeed or not. Strength comes from within and toughness becomes an important attribute.

Too often toughness is associated as a physical attribute. But in reality, it’s more mental. Once you get into a zone, it’s not the physical aspect that propels you; it’s the motivation, focus, and commitment. Most fail not because they lack strength, but mental capacity to compete.

Every individual needs motivation to some capacity. Whether it’s overcoming an illness, crisis, or simply a sports related competition, there must be an initial triggering moment. We search for alternatives that inspire, motivate, or fire us up. It’s about finding your zone and once you achieve it, there is nothing stopping you.

Life does throw curves to change the momentum. Ever notice just when everything seems to fall into place; career, relationships, financial, health, and suddenly without warning, a crisis surfaces? That’s the curve. While many consider curves negative attributes, perhaps look at it as a form of motivation. Without pain, there is no gain.

Shift your focus and concentrate on your goals. All realistic goals are attainable, set your sights high. Each day work towards it and climb a little higher. Filter out any white noise surrounding you, maintain your focus on what you truly want to achieve in life. Keep your eyes centered and find your zone.

Commitment enables you stay motivated and focused. Any obstacles you face along your journey are overshadowed by your determination. Your instincts will tell you when to push harder, move faster, and climb higher. Failure, quitting are not options known, you got to strive further and stay committed to your goals. Pain is no match for you.

You will succeed. Erase any lingering doubts or perceptions by others. None of that matters. The most important aspect is you and your ability to overcome despite any growing odds. You can walk around in fear, in sorrow, or in self-pity. Or you can walk around with your head held high, confident and determined. The choice is yours.

The sun does shine. Even in our darkest moments, eventually the sun will shine. It may not be today or tomorrow, but it’ll shine. Remember, without pain, there is no gain.

Aim high and “keep those feet moving.”